I want you to express yourself
There is vitality, a life force, energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it.
It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open. You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep yourself open and aware to the urges that motivate you. Keep the channel open. . . .“Jonathan Fields, How to Live a Good Life”
Your true self
Your, dance around in the kitchen, (or in my case above at the beach), yell at a footy match, say no to things that don’t align with your morals kinda express yourself.
It can be hard, and there are definitely times when you should hold yourself back.
Like telling a family member what you really think at Christmas, may be one to avoid.
Or if you believe your boss is a twit, calling them that, again, while you might want to express yourself, may not be the best time or place.
But when thinking about you as a person.
Not you as a partner, parent, employee, team member or voter.
You as you are.
What do you do to let that beautiful person shine?
Expressing Yourself can be a small thing, or something so big it can’t be missed.
Express Yourself Examples
- Wearing Bright Colours
- Listening to X Y Z Music
- Colouring in or outside the lines
- Adding carrot to your Spaghetti Bog
- Journaling your thoughts, emotions, reactions and memories
- Creative pursuits like playing music, acting, painting, etc.
If you need to, think of it as a Marie Kondo moment and consider, does this spark joy.
And if it doesn’t harm others, cause you pain nor break the bank, then what a wonderful thing.
In my quest to become a better version of me, I began to unearth moments where I was expressing for the wrong reasons.
I was expressing to meet the requirements, attitudes, perceived notions, norms, expectations etc, of my surroundings.
And now I am pretty sure it was all in my head, which doesn’t make it any less real, but there really was no rule saying that as an Art Teacher, I had to #dresslikeone, nor be easily identifiable as one.
And yet I did for years. Because it felt like an expectation that to express, I had to be bright and zany, pay homage to famous art pieces, or ensure on Photo Day I looked that little bit out there.
Don’t get me wrong. I still rock some of those outfits, because they where boss.
However, since then, and probably forever more, I have and will shed a lot of unneeded baggage that was determining my actions unconsciously, through my inability to stop, consider my motivations, and consciously step forth.
Joseph Chilton Pearce is someone I’ve been reading about and I wanted to share some of his thoughts on the matter. Now I don’t know if I agree with everything he says and believes, but I did find him a very interesting individual.
To Live a Creative Life, We Must Lose the Fear of Being WrongJoseph Chilton Pearce
And while the above quote says a Creative Life, I think it relates to Expressing Yourself as well.
We fear people may not like our
- Art that doesn’t look like what they perceive it should
And that can be so very utterly debilitating.
And honestly, just not needed.
Again, as long as your expression is not offensive nor harming others…
Why do you allow their thoughts on the matter to effect you so?
Here are a couple of mine. They may be expressions for now, not forever, but they make me happy when I do, see, wear or invest in them.
And that is enough for the moment.
Some of my smaller moments of expression include
- One of my lunchboxes is a kids one and has the Justice League on it
- My nail polish is always bright
- I always experiment with my hair. It is about to be dyed a soft pastel pink this week!
- The language I use. Very colloquial & slang based. However when needed, I slip in to knowledgeable / content based to assimilate with my surroundings
- My art. It is always to express a feeling, mood or need. It is generally never to share with others. Just to let out all of my feels
- My shopping bags can have a footy team to animated character on them
- My workspace is covered in posters, photographs, pens with quotes, fairy lights and colour. You can’t walk past it without feeling the happiness.
And you know what?
I find I am at my healthiest when I am expressing myself authentically.
Whether that be busting out the ukulele and jamming to relieve the tension of the day, or purchasing a personalised diary and covering it in stickers that make me smile. It makes me happy and bleeds out the toxins of a tough day.
I want you to express yourself darling.
Loudly. Proudly. Unabashadely. Authentically.
Much Love Darlings,
PS – Comment below some of the ways you express yourself and how they make you feel 🙂 Have I missed some obvious ways? Have you changed careers to fully express the inner you? Tell me all about it x